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<h1 style="text-align: center;">Passion. Does It Ever Last?</h1> <img src="https://media.istockphoto.com/id/2206853849/photo/happy-couple-sharing-a-romantic-moment-outdoors-together.jpg?s=612x612&w=0&k=20&c=Ze2rkg3xUxDLJqMnNH7lRyslA2nFnU9XSnNFsfUcJeE=" alt="" width="800" />   “Wait, can you show me how you slide your butt up against the wall? I’m gonna practice on Steven later.” As our instructor showed her precisely how to lift her ass up and roll her body out, I did something I could only describe as giggle. Imagining Sarah, in her 20-year-relationship and 16 years of marriage, still bumping and grinding incessantly with her husband. That she used dance class to come up with moves for the bedroom. That they were not only still attracted to each other, but liked to get it on, a lot. Contrary to Sarah and Steven’s <a href="http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/story?id=187153&page=1">shenanigans</a> in the bedroom, as I walk out of the studio, I think about how I keep hearing from everyone else about how “it fades”. That passion is something relegated to the beginning of a relationship, to the young, to those who have affairs. We have hundreds of years of proof as to how sex becomes too familiar with that one person, and so we clandestinely engage elsewhere (or leave for higher ground). Men will inevitably be attracted to many women. And once he “knows” his woman too well (and deals with her ups and downs, her nagging, her shadow), biologically, he can’t help but to start sniffing around the playground of beautiful women, well, everywhere. Women will inevitably get tired of having sex. They will use the excuse “I have a headache”, or “I’m too tired after working all day and taking care of the kids,” or “I have no sex drive anymore.” She will push her husband away when he tries to court her. They will become more of partners, parents, and friends than lovers. Really? Really?! Blech. Hours of phone time with female friends <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2024/12/11/how-to-build-a-lasting-relationship-beyond-ideal-proposals/">who are in long term relationships</a> has gone into this question of passion. I get it – familiarity breeds indifference. Maybe not indifference exactly, but more of a “ho hum” attitude, or more often, more of a “I’m just not as interested in sex as I used to be.” Blame may be put on busy schedules, or life running them ragged, maybe simply needing sleep. I often hold myself back from saying, “But you’re 34. 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She doesn’t understand why the hell he isn’t interested anymore, I mean, he’s a guy, right? Self-blame of body and looks is bound to follow. Makes me kinda wanna throw my hands up and say forget it. Truth is, I’m afraid. For every one couple I know who is still playing dress-up and administering adult toy appendages after years of being together, there are twenty couples that have sex once every couple of months. Maybe. I’m partially afraid to deal with the ravages of time and relationship to sexual chemistry and intrigue, and in part, I’m afraid because I know the glasses through which I view the rest of my life. Let’s just say I enjoy variety. I love passion. I get bored easily. Or turned off. Or feel overwhelmed, and wanna get the fuck out. What if this will always be true for me? The men I’ve been gaga for in my life haven’t been available to me in some form or another, physically or emotionally. Sometimes both. I can’t imagine my passion for them ever ending, because it is so strong, with every moment I’m bored working on some copy writing health article or sitting through a class on proper scientific research techniques, my brain grabs for stimulation. When I’m into them, I’m into them, and spend too many moments thinking about devouring every bit of their body, or imagining some new position in a slightly hidden alleyway. But I know all the other things I’m initially gaga for, that I eventually get, I lose interest. Or if they show up too quickly, interest is lessened from the get-go. How long could I be in a real honest-to-god relationship before I think, “meh”? The other day, I thought about feeling the passion so deep, the romance so strong. But not getting to have the relationship I want, the partner here to make decisions with, the person to lean on. Then I looked over to the person I can lean on, the partner here to make decisions with, the relationship I want. But lacking the strong romance, the deep passion. Maybe passion is too explosive. Maybe it’s incompatible with structure, getting on the same page. Maybe that which feeds passion feeds pain. But I’m not sure if I can live with anything else. Does passion always have to fade, or can it last through years of a marriage/relationship? Is passion even that important in the long term? Why or why not?